I have the same problem. I'm totally OK with the bell curve of gender & sexual whatevers. I don't think it's my age. It's just too darnn difficult. I have a hard enough time recalling names. No way can I recall pronouns too. IMO it's especially difficult for teachers with multiple classes that change every semester. There's no perfect solution. The majority will always be the default. The minority, well, sorry. Short of wearing signage, your average person won't bother. Your ally person can't keep it straight. I do keep it straight for the handful of gay, lesbian, trans folks I know personally. But that's because I know them well and see them regularly. I try extra hard to say things right for the one trans person I'm close too, since everyone craps on them and their suicide risk is so high.
I think that's the best we can do, to start. I remember all the different conventions we went through in the 50s and 60s with regard to Americans with African ancestry... the arc bends.
I have the same problem. I'm totally OK with the bell curve of gender & sexual whatevers. I don't think it's my age. It's just too darnn difficult. I have a hard enough time recalling names. No way can I recall pronouns too. IMO it's especially difficult for teachers with multiple classes that change every semester. There's no perfect solution. The majority will always be the default. The minority, well, sorry. Short of wearing signage, your average person won't bother. Your ally person can't keep it straight. I do keep it straight for the handful of gay, lesbian, trans folks I know personally. But that's because I know them well and see them regularly. I try extra hard to say things right for the one trans person I'm close too, since everyone craps on them and their suicide risk is so high.
I think that's the best we can do, to start. I remember all the different conventions we went through in the 50s and 60s with regard to Americans with African ancestry... the arc bends.